When I'm getting my daughter's attention, there's a very clear progression, and she knows it. I will call her name, if she doesn't respond, I will call again. The next escalation is "Kalen, I'm being very patient and polite. Please answer." At this point, if I see that she's really deeply engrossed in something, I'll physically break into that space (step in front of the TV, put a hand on the book she's reading). This is rare - 90% of the time it gets to this point, she's deliberately ignoring me. She will then get a final warning, and consequences are applied.
When I'm getting Connor's attention, I call his name, then call it again. Then I will enter his space, make eye contact and call his name again. I will repeat this loop until it works.
I hate having different standards of acceptable behaviour for my kids. Kalen gets in crap for ignoring me, Connor gets attention.Labels: living with autism
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Living with Sana and Aria is like this all too often... if Sana hurts Aria, after gently correcting Sana I have to explain to Aria what /she/ (Aria) did wrong, that screaming and kicking are how Sana communicates when she's upset, and to just walk away and speak calmly. If Aria hits, though, she's in trouble so deep she can't see land.
Our poor neurotypical-est kids...
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